Like to Love: When You Really Love Someone

Posted by Matt on March 28th, 2009 filed in Marriage, Parenting, love, relationships

What does it mean to really love someone? By the time Dad and I started talking about this I remember saying, “Dad, I know what it means to love. I mean come on. Your heart leaps every time you are around this person, you hang out, you always want to be together.  You want to get things for them.  You always treat each other nicely and you never fight.”

Dad shook his head yes slowly and then he paused.  “Son, what if she does something that hurt you?  What if you get into an argument and say pretty bad stuff to each other?  What if she made you so upset that you did not ever want to see her again?”

My reply was simply, “Then I guess we really did not love each other.”  Again, Dad nodded gently and then jumped up from the bed… “What here a second, Matt.” He returned with his big leather Holy Bible King James Version.  This book is what my father always leaned on.  I can remember times when my Dad was really needing something that he would get into The Word of God, pray, and find God’s direction for our family.  Him and mom both.  However, they never used the Bible as a “weapon” against me or Charity (my sister).  They did not beat us up with it.  They gave us plenty of reason to love God’s Word and not despise it.  Parents…please do not use the Bible to judge your kids, verbally whip them with it or anything remotely close.

Dad sat down and motioned for me to come sit by him.  I snuggled under his big right shoulder as he was opening it up.  “Son, God is Love.  So if we really want to know what Love is, it only makes since to go to the true source… His Word.  This whole book is about God’s love for us.  But for the moment, I thought we should look at a part of it that gives us a great definition.  I Corithians 13.  Known as the Love Chapter.  Here is what we read…
I Corithians 13: 4-8

⁴Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,⁵Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; ⁶Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; ⁷Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. ⁸Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

Dad then took his time and went over each verse one by one.  Here is a quick version : Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude.  Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.  Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. Love never fails!

“So Matt, Loving someone can honestly be tough sometimes too.  When they do things that really rip your heart out but when you truly love them you are able to work it out.  When all you do is about them first before yourself.  When you are patient with each other and can bear the fact that both of you are human and make mistakes.  But at the end of the day, you are holding each other in love.  Love covers a multitudes of sins.  You are loyal to them, they are loyal to you.  When people are truly in love… love never fails.  No one can tear them apart…except themselves.”

I am a lover of 80’s and 90’s music… so I thought I would have two AWESOME videos of songs by Michael Bolton- one of the greatest singers in the whole freakin’ world .  Watch them and get the love brewing!!!!!