She is your wife so treat her like it!

Me and my smokin' hot wife

I had an anonymous comment on my last post that reminded me of something that Dad was amazing at.  The comment was that she tried to tell her husband that “I would like to be something other than ‘Mom’ for just a little while”.  This person is right.  It is so easy to get caught up in being parents that you forget that you and your spouse are lovers.

On a long drive to a hunting spot, my Dad talked about this with me.  I had been married for awhile and had two of our girls.  Dad was really good at making sure Mom knew that she was first his wife.  He started out by saying, “Your life together did not start as parents.  Your marriage started with a boy who met a girl and fell in love.”

There was an attraction that gave you butterflies.  Guys, you would do whatever it took to make her happy.  When was the last time you bought roses for your bride?  That long huh…get out there and get your butt in gear.  Ladies, when was the last time that you snuggled up to your man and made sure he knew that you absolutely loved him? Do not fall into the trap of using the kids as an excuse to be unloving toward your spouse.  Did you let yourself go after you conquered (married) her, guys?  Ladies, what did you do once you finally got that ring and got out of the race for a husband? (I bet I get some comments on this!)

I ran into some distant relatives that have a few kids and actually call each other Mom and Dad!  Catch that???  The parents call each other “mom” and “dad”.  Whoa??!!!!??? I know that some do that, but does that not bother you?  It does me.  It would feed this problem I would think.

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, get out of the rut and remember that spouse of yours.  Treat them right…love on them…take them out…remember why you got together.  I guarantee it was for more than just to reproduce!  Though the practice of it is cool hahahahahahaha!!!!!!